I’ve mentioned before that my guild is ran by 3 people, Delinia, Dariar, and myself. Dariar is on a break due to work and that leaves his wife, Delinia, very busy with IRL. Leaving me in charge is not a good idea, that’s for sure. I lead raids. I yell at people. I’m not so good on the social aspects of taking care of others.
Someone comes to me with a problem and I try to relate it to raiding. That way it sounds profound (I hope) and not like I have no clue WTF they are talking about. It isn’t often that I’m the cause of a problem (haha, who am I kidding?)
I logged in this morning and found out I had angered some people. What what?
Each day I do the daily heroic. I usually do it twice. I heal it once on my priest and tank or DPS it once on my DK. I go out of my way to get as many people from guild into groups that I can. I’ve done several heroics that had 2 tanks or 3 healers. It doesn’t bother me, I like hanging out with everyone in the guild.
I always just ask in guild chat if anyone wants to go. The first people to respond are the people I take. The closest I come to favorites is that a good friend of mine is always my tank when I heal. It’s just a good deal we have so we don’t have to worry about filling those slots. If no one responds I PUG the last spots.
In Everquest I PUG’d just about everything except raids. There was always a reason to get experience points (dying in EQ caused XP loss and you could actually delevel). Plus you always meet new people in PUGs. Sometimes good… sometimes not, but my point is that when I want to do the daily heroic I get it done.
As I mentioned I don’t always get people from guild for groups. Which makes me wonder why people think that others just come running to me when I form them.
Last night after my 10man ended (we got Anub’arak by the way, it was stupid easy 1 shot with almost no knowledge of WTF was going on) Watz (a guildie DPS) asked me if I wanted to do the daily. I was like nah, I think I’ma go to bed. Then my tanky friend from guild asked and I was like ugh, sure, I’ll go if we take Watz since I told him I wasn’t going to.
I invite Tanky friend, Watz, and ask guildchat if anyone wants to go. Two DPS respond and I take them. I think nothing of it.
Flash forward to this morning…
I find out that there were 2 other groups in guild chat looking for people. The first group consisted of 2 dps and a healer and the other was a full group minus a tank I think. Now, mind you it wasn’t possible for me fix those groups and I would have felt bad ninja’ing pieces of them but they got mad that when I asked for some people… they were right there ready to go. A few said (I heard it threw the grapevine) that those people must be sucking up to me or something. What what?
First of all I know the exact position they are talking about. In the only other guild I’ve been part of in WoW this was a big issue. The guild leader had a clique that always did stuff together. It was almost impossible to get a group with him. Lots of members felt slighted, because he went out of his way not to take people. I’ve never wanted to be like that. It’s why I take the first people who respond in gchat.
Second of all I took it extremely personal. It really hurt my feelings that people think I was somehow trying to slight them. I’ve NEVER had that intention. It made me feel really bad, like I had somehow failed parts of my guild when I didn’t do anything wrong. Why should I be the one in trouble when I didn’t do anything wrong.
Now I’m left with the problem of how do I make those people feel better? I can’t do more heroics, I barely have enough time to do the jewel crafting daily before I’m getting ready for a raid or some other random thing. I’m not going to stop grouping with guildies so that no one can say I’m playing favorites.
I’m just going to try to go out of my way to get peeps I don’t normally get a chance to group with. It’s the best (read: only) solution I have for the problem.
If Mr. Officerchat is reading this I’d be very interested in his point of view on the situation and how he might solve it.