We recently killed Yogg-Saron and I was super happy. All the hard work and long hours paid off. But then 3.2 was out and Yogg’s loot suddenly wasn’t so good. In fact, you could get far better from the Coliseum or the dreaded Ulduar hard modes. I couldn’t be bothered though. I wanted more Yogg kills. I wanted my t8.5 shoulders. I wanted more fragments for my Val’anyr.
Then one of my raiders pointed out that an amazing tank sword drops off of XT hard mode. One of the best in the game. Which made me think… I’m not the only person who wants things out of this zone. It’s selfish to force everyone into the wipefest of Yogg when in reality, he’s not worth the time unless you are one shotting him. This brings us to the next abuse of power, selfishness.
Selfishness is defined as,
devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others. (dictionary.com)
Selfishness is tough to deal with. By the time anyone realizes it (the raid lead included) they have already rationalized their decisions and most likely set into a course of action to attain these goals.
How do you spot selfishiness?
The general sign for selfishiness aren’t really transparent, they are more a series of events that most likely lead to your frustration. The raid lead(s) have likely set a goal that doesn’t make a lot of sense.
Example1: You have killed a boss (read: Yogg) once but have failed to kill him the last 2 weeks in a row. Rather than refocusing efforts in places such as hard modes where loot is better the lead(s) continue to push forward with the same goal.
Example2: Your group has been unable to kill Northrend Beasts the last few times your group has attempted it. The attempts weren’t close by any means but the lead(s) insist on skipping Ulduar (where your group desperately needs gear) to work on this boss instead.
You will notice in both of these examples there is nothing glaring about being selfish in them. In fact, if they weren’t paired with a topic about being selfish you might not even know what I was talking about. Let’s take a look at the first example.
First you have to ask yourself why are you continuing to wipe on Yogg when there is better loot off bosses with easier hard modes. Things that jump out are the fact that your raid lead talks about loot that Yogg drops all the time. See the connection now?
In the second example you notice that the raid lead(s) have the highest point totals (assuming you are using some sort of point based loot system) which would give them the first pieces of the new tier. They have commented before on how awesome the gear looks or how much they need it so that the group can progress farther.
What do I do about selfish raid lead(s)?
This one is very easy. Talk to them.
It is highly likely that the raid lead(s) don’t even realize they have turned selfish. Due to the early rationlizing they think they are acting in the best interests of the group.
Be prepared when you decide to talk to them. Don’t rush in with, “You are being selfish, you should change this and do this and… why am I being /gkicked?!” You can’t fight selfish with blind attacks. Point out things that are glaringly obvious to you, but may not be to the leaders. Use tools such as loot lists (wowhead.com) and raid reports from places like worldoflogs.com or wowmeteronline.com.
If you don’t want to confront them directly then send them a private message on your guild website or even in game.
The worst case scenario is that they know they are being selfish, that it is part of their nature. A situation like this will most likely lead to the downfall of the group you are in or extremely slow progression. At this point you have to ask yourself if its worth sticking around… or moving on.